When Cheryl and I started Wine, Women and a Paintbrush several years ago, we had a few reasons beyond our combined need to make something of our insatiable appetites for creative projects. One was that we’d noticed that there are a few things missing in many womens’ lives that our creative evenings could address. One of the major ones is PLEASURE. I think that we typically get so caught up in the doings of our lives that pleasure is a side-effect, if we are lucky, rather than the point. And, very often we miss it all together. It makes me think about when my oldest was playing hockey in the community, on a relatively competitive team, and watching him was always a conflict as I wasn’t much of a fan of the fans. Fortunately, A New Earth came out at the time and Eckhart Tolle pointed out that I could choose to “enjoy” (be in joy) the moment. It forever changed how I watch my kids in sports.
Anyway, back to the point…
I think that we’ve forgotten about the importance of pleasure. And we hoped, by putting together introspective and engaging creative activities, we could give women a place to make it a point – at least once a month. What’s interesting is how difficult it can be for us to do that. Our last project was about self-love and acceptance and it was a challenge to say the least. Women are experts at finding our flaws and hopeless at patting ourselves on the back – at a deep level anyway – the Louise Hay kind of “I love you Lori” way. But it’s a process of getting comfortable with that adjustment, paying more attention to what’s good and less to what’s wrong. (And then being okay with allowing it. We’re sure okay with the self-criticism.) And noticing when life is pleasurable as well as actually making pleasure a priority.
All this stems from a post I read today by Laura Garnett – you can read it via the link below – that links a need for pleasure or positive thoughts with success.
I found this excerpt fascinating..