Pleasure and Success


When Cheryl and I started Wine, Women and a Paintbrush several years ago, we had a few reasons beyond our combined need to make something of our insatiable appetites for creative projects.  One was that we’d noticed that there are a few things missing in many womens’ lives that our creative evenings could address.  One of the major ones is PLEASURE.  I think that we typically get so caught up in the doings of our lives that pleasure is a side-effect, if we are lucky, rather than the point.  And, very often we miss it all together.  It makes me think about when my oldest was playing hockey in the community, on a relatively competitive team, and watching him was always a conflict as I wasn’t much of a fan of the fans.  Fortunately, A New Earth came out at the time and Eckhart Tolle pointed out that I could choose to “enjoy” (be in joy) the moment.  It forever changed how I watch my kids in sports.

Anyway, back to the point…

We all need a reminder of how great we are.

I think that we’ve forgotten about the importance of pleasure.  And we hoped, by putting together introspective and engaging creative activities, we could give women a place to make it a point – at least once a month.  What’s interesting is how difficult it can be for us to do that.  Our last project was about self-love and acceptance and it was a challenge to say the least.  Women are experts at finding our flaws and hopeless at patting ourselves on the back – at a deep level anyway – the Louise Hay kind of “I love you Lori” way.  But it’s a process of getting comfortable with that adjustment, paying more attention to what’s good and less to what’s wrong.  (And then being okay with allowing it.  We’re sure okay with the self-criticism.)  And noticing when life is pleasurable as well as actually making pleasure a priority.

All this stems from a post I read today  by Laura Garnett – you can read it via the link below – that links a need for pleasure or positive thoughts with success.

I found this excerpt fascinating..

But this isn’t a new idea. Napoleon Hill addresses this in his famous 1937 book Think and Grow Rich in which he discusses the power of the mind and how those that believe that they will be rich are.  His point was that what you think, you can make happen.
Further proof: There was an eye-opening study done back in 1979 (cited in the book The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor). It took a handful of men who were 75 and had them behave as if they were 20 years younger for a full week. They lived in a retreat center where every detail of the facility was modified to appear as though it were actually 1959. The magazines were dated 1959. They wore badges saying that they were 20 years younger and their conversations were confined to events and topics that they dealt with in the late 1950s. After one week of acting younger they were tested on every aspect we assume deteriorates with age: physical strength, posture, perception, cognition and short-term memory. The results were remarkable: most of the men had improved in every category. They were more flexible, had better posture and even improved hand strength. Their average eyesight even improved by almost 10 percent as did their performance on tests of memory. In over half of the men, intelligence, long thought to be fixed from adolescence, moved up as well. They also looked, on average, three years younger.
Read more:

Leave a Reply

Required fields are marked *.